Monday, March 21, 2011

How will I know?

Part of me is starting to question when would be the best time for us to expand our family. There's no denying that the hubs has been ready to add a new baby to the mix for awhile now, but I've been a bit iffy about the whole idea. I just don't know if we are ready. If I'm ready.

There is no doubt that I want another baby. I miss being pregnant and everything that comes with it. There is nothing like giving life to a beautiful baby you've been taking care of for nine months. I also miss the baby stage ... the first smiles and laughs, the snuggle time, and all the milestones that are made along the way.

I keep hearing from friends that going from one to two isn't quite the shock as going from zero to one. I can understand that by number two, you have already been through it once and it may not feel quite like uncharted territory. But the truth of it is ... I'm scared. I just don't know if I'm ready to handle an active, strong-willed toddler and a newborn all at the same time. With the hubs schedule and our traveling around from city to city, I just don't know if I can do it.

So I'm a bit nervous ... scared .... and I don't know if I'd be good at this two kid thing. But what I do know is this ... I know how much I love my husband. I know how much I love our sweet little Abby. I know how I'm anxious and excited to give her a baby sister or brother. How will I know when the time is right? Is the time ever right?

And on another note ... Lots of super cute pictures coming this week!!!


Melinda Johnson said...

Is this your way of telling us you're about to become pregnant or already are? ;) Going from 0 to 1 was's going from 1-2 that is a shocker. You did it the right way and spaced yours out so it shouldn't be as hard as having them 15 months apart like some other people we know...;)

Carol said...

Well, they always say around 2 years you start to get the itch for another. There is never a perfect time to be pregnant or a perfect time to add in a sibling - it's always going to be uncomfortable, inconvenient and exhausting...but it's also a beautiful thing. God has a plan :)

PS: And, I thouroughly disagree with Melinda -the transistion from 1-2 was a cake walk, but then again, mine were MUCH FURTHER APART in age :) I don't doubt that she was in some version of hell for awhile :)

Shannon said...

What a question!!! We're in the same mindset over her, my friend!

Hope your week is off to a great start and can't wait to see pictures!


Sue said...

You know what I'm thinking ;-)
PS: Help is here whenever you need it!! said...

:) Maybe we will be pregnant around the same time again.

God knows when you will be ready. Just ask Him to reveal it to you :)

e185862a-3850-11e0-a986-000f20980440 said...

I didn't feel ready for the first one, despite her definitely being planned, nor do I feel ready for the second one that's going to bless us later this year. I want a second child, they'll be almost 3 years apart which should minimize insanity. However, it is SUCH an adjustment to add a newborn to the mix. Not to mention the currently fantastic schedule getting thrown out the window based on the newborns whims.

In short, I don't know that anyone is ever ready, so if it seems like a good idea, you might as well go for it. :)

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